Big/Oh/Same + Mood/Worm/Hat — chasecharmer: chasecharmer: genres are OUTDATED....

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
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genres are OUTDATED. i sort my music by thottiness, jammability, rebelliousness, theatricality, and depression.

chasecharmer

the emo trinity’s average song stats

mcr 

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fob

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patd

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as you can see, no one really touches patd for thottiness, but mcr is the only viable choice for an apocalypse anthem. fob is the most well-rounded of the three, but given that they have neither depression, thottiness, nor rebelliousness above an 8 they can occasionally fall shallow philosophically speaking. 

‘but where is gayness on this chart?’ you ask, like a moron. rebellion, theatre, thothood, jamming, and depression are the five component parts of every gay worth their salt. next question. 

roaringstream

This is the most powerful chart I’ve ever seen

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I’d divorce him too lmao

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It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

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Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

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Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

c-ptsdrecovery

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

Source: rumade hm does this apply to like your childhood too?
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